Category: Uncategorized

Happy New Year…right?

HAPPY NEW YEAR … right?

Happy New Year to all my blog readers and supporters out there! It seems whenever I wish someone with emetophobia a happy new year they’re always like “ugh…I hate January.” Apparently this year is “the worst ever” for reports of norovirus (incorrectly called “stomach flu”). It got me to thinking – is it really the worst? I don’t encourage people with emetophobia to ask Google this question. Because … why does it matter? Here are all the reasons it shouldn’t matter to you how much norovirus is “out there:”

1. If you never put your fingers in your mouth or up your nose, you can never catch it.
2. If someone with the virus vomits right in front of you, and you think you’ve been sprayed with even microscopic particles, head to a sink and wash your face and hands with soap and water before you lick your lips or sniff (you can’t inhale norovirus, but you can sniff it up your nose and swallow it down the back).
3. If you do catch it – so what? I’m guessing you’re a young, healthy person reading this. Norovirus is a day of feeling gross, a day no one would sign up for, for sure. But then it’s gone and you didn’t die and life goes on just as before. Except that you’re now immune to this strain for the rest of the winter!

Some people with emetophobia go to excessive lengths to prevent Norovirus, most of which are completely unnecessary. We used to think benzalkonium chloride was the thing to kill it off on surfaces but now there’s a study to show it doesn’t work very well after all. Good ol’ bleach solution (1 tablespoon to a quart or litre of water) left on the surface to dry is still the best. And don’t use anti-bacterial soaps as they’re making “superbugs” and norovirus isn’t a bacteria anyway. Plain soap and water, and rub for 20 seconds (your Apple watch is a fun and cool help for that) and rinse. Voila…no more virus.

And please don’t wash your hands a hundred times a day. This will make them raw and dry – trapping the viral particles so washing them away is even more difficult. A normal amount of times to wash hands is 6-10 in a day. Each time you use the bathroom (for any reason), after you come home from outside, before preparing food, and before eating something with your hands. Further handwashing is not only unnecessary – it’s going to give you the opposite effect.

Beware of any times you want to put your fingers in your mouth such as:

1. Licking food off your fingers
2. Biting your nail(s)
3. Licking fingers to turn a page
4. Picking something out of your teeth
5. Picking your nose
6. Wiping the end of your nose

Remember, to catch norovirus you must swallow the particles (fecal or vomit). You cannot catch it through breathing them in, or being near or hugging someone who has/had/will have it. This IS how you catch Covid, however, and measles and a few other things so be sure your vaccines are up to date.

So take the necessary precautions and then scroll right past all those posts you’re seeing about people with Norovirus. I can guarantee they don’t know any of this stuff.

The Biggest Mistake Everyone with Emetophobia Makes

I don’t normally talk about making mistakes, because after all, we’re all learning as we go, ya?  The thing is, you don’t want to be headed down the wrong road for long. It wastes time, and time is something that we with emetophobia don’t really have. I said “we” in that last sentence because even though I’m totally healed of my emetophobia, and my life is positively grand, there is still a lot of my life gone when I look back.

When I was a kid, I was terrified of going to sleepovers, to birthday parties, to school a lot of the time, to field trips. I remember one field trip we went on when I was in elementary school. I lived in small-town Ontario, so we always got on a bus and went somewhere that took at least two hours one way, if not three or four. The field trip I remember was somewhere to a forest or nature park and we saw salamanders for the first time. The reason I remember this so clearly is because it was the ONLY field trip I ever went on in school. I managed to get out of them through a variety of means like faking an illness or just hiding from everyone until the bus left. Once I got on a bus to go on a school trip to be on a local TV show where kids just danced to music. Someone threw up on the back of the bus (I was sitting in the very front seat) and when I got to the TV studio, I was so upset I couldn’t go on TV – I just sat in the green room, crying. I remember being nonplussed about this in the end, as most girls only went to see the host, a guy named Dave who everyone thought was gorgeous, but he was my cousin and I saw him at home all the time anyway.

I missed even more stuff in high school. I was a cheerleader, but wouldn’t get on the bus to go to any away games and got bullied for that. I was afraid to go to gymnastics competitions. I missed even more sleepovers and parties and who knows what else.

As a young wife and mother, the list of stuff I wouldn’t or couldn’t do is a mile long. So time is of the essence. Now that we know so much more about emetophobia, at the very least we should be on the right track.

So the biggest mistake people with emetophobia make is avoidance. Yes, we avoid things we think will make us sick. Yes, we avoid situations where we or someone else might be sick, but there is more. People with emetophobia waste a lot of time avoiding getting treatment. If you have money to pay to a private therapist, then you’re really wasting time every day that you don’t look for one. If you don’t have money or insurance there are lots of free or very inexpensive ways to get better – buy a book and work through the exercises.

If you’re not on the road to getting better, ask yourself what you’re waiting for. Are you waiting for when you have more time? You never will. Waiting for emetophobia to go away on its own? It won’t. Waiting for when you’re less anxious? You won’t be. Are you waiting for more money? There are a thousand ways to spend more money outside of getting emetophobia treatment.

Don’t make the biggest mistake of your life and waste more of your life having emetophobia. Start now on your road to recovery!

There’s a Plethora of Help Out There Now

I remember in the silly 1986 movie “The Three Amigos” when one of the amigos uses the word “plethora” and the bandit ringleader, El Guapo, makes fun of him saying: “Well, you told me I have a plethora. And I just would like to know if you know what a plethora is. I would not like to think that a person would tell someone he has a plethora, and then find out that that person has *no idea* what it means to have a plethora.” I’ve never forgotten laughing my head off at that line. I had to look the word up that day and since then I use it a lot! “Plethora” just means a whole lot.

Back in 2010 when I left the ministry to practice psychotherapy full-time there was nothing much on the internet about emetophobia. There was a definition, and if you looked up “fear of vomiting” you could find the word “emetophobia.” There was also a forum called “The International Emetophobia Forum” at www.emetophobia.org (which is still there) where people with emetophobia could talk with one another. These forums have now been largely replaced with Facebook groups, although they were much superior. If you join a group on Facebook it may never come through your feed. You would have to go looking for it. When I post in my group which has close to 5k members usually only 1-300 see the post. The IES forum was life-changing for me. I met other people with emetophobia, and a woman named Margaret from Netherlands put up a little website with some exposure pictures beginning with one that was eggs with faces drawn on, and one egg was split open at the “mouth” with egg coming out which faintly resembled the egg vomiting. It was pretty rudimentary. From this, I got the inspiration for my first website which is still at the URL www.emetophobiahelp.org .

I put up my website, advertised for clients through the Forum and on my website and sat back waiting for them to pour in, since nobody seemed to know anything about it. I figured that as a therapist who used to have emetophobia, I would appeal to people to work with. As you can guess, my little DIY “weebly” website sat like a drop of water in the Pacific Ocean of the internet. I couldn’t understand why when I Googled “help for emetophobia” that my website wasn’t even on the first 50 pages. It was then that I learned about SEO (search engine optimization).  I learned that it was a thing, I mean. I had no idea how to do it. So armed with a book called “SEO for Dummies,” and some helpful websites about it, I set out to learn. I took a month, 8-hours a day, to absorb everything I possibly could about SEO. I wrote blogs. I interviewed a nutritionist and posted that, I engaged the expertise of a microbiologist to talk about norovirus, what it was, how it was transmitted, etc. and I posted that. I kept the content fresh with key words like “emetophobia” “fear of vomiting” “fear of throwing up” and “emetophobia help.” Slowly but surely my website climbed to #1 on Google. It took about a year.

Keep in mind that in Google images was in its infancy in 2010, and YouTube was even younger. Internet speeds, although no longer dial-up, were mercilessly slow. There was no Zoom, so I started working with people on Skype. Early days for help with emetophobia, for sure.

Now there are a plethora of websites about emetophobia. Some are huge and pay for ads on Google, so once again this site falls lower on the search engine. But it’s still doing well for the keywords “emetophobia help” and “emetophobia treatment.” There is lots of information. I think my site still appeals because of my personal story of my struggle with emetophobia and my triumph over it. I’m also on the cutting edge of knowledge about emetophobia research.

With the publication of my book for clinicians: “Emetophobia: Understanding and Treating Fear of Vomiting for Children and Adults” you’d think I’d accomplished my life’s mission. But I’m not ready to pack it in just yet – not until there is help for people at every price point. Lots of folks can’t afford to work with me individually, especially with the past five years of inflation since Covid. And even my classes were recently described to me as “expensive” by someone. Fair enough. Expensive is always more money than someone has to spare. So here is the result of my latest mission, to provide help at every price point. Hopefully it’s all linked. I’m putting the costs in American dollars – more expensive for Canadians and Australians but less for people in the UK and Europe.

1. Individual sessions with me (private pay only) 12-16 @ $175 = $2100 USD
2. Online live Classes with me = $525-$700 USD
3. Pre-recorded webinar series [not yet available] = $250-$350USD
4. Parents of Teens OR Parents of Kids with Emetophobia Workshops = $68USD
5. Peace and Calm Box = $66USD
6. Anxiety and Panic Toolkit = $35 USD
7. Book: “Emetophobia: Understanding and Treating Fear of Vomiting in Children and Adults” $30USD e-book; $40USD paperback
8. [coming in 2026: Anna’s self-help book and memoir: “Overcoming Emetophobia”]
9. Panic No More e-book = $10
10. Emetophobia Help with Anna Christie PODCAST = free
11. www.emetophobiahelp.org website with information for people with emetophobia = free
12. www.emetophobia.net website with information and resources for therapists = free

I do take some flack for my “advertising” of some of these. That’s ok, I get it. Some things cost more than people can afford. And there are a lot of shysters out there trying to make a buck from desperate people. The thing is, all of this stuff takes time and a lot of internet software, so I have to make a living. Plus I have cost of living like everyone else. Just know that if I get too much flack I’ll probably block you from wherever you’re leaving it. Because people need to know what’s available to help them.

There are also other self-help books at various prices and many many websites with information. I have a list of therapists on http://www.emetophobiahelp.org who may take your insurance and will cost you close to nothing. There are even a couple of other podcasts, although they may have fizzled out by now but some of their episodes are still available and they’re quite good. I’m on virtually every social media channel with blogs, information, notifications about classes and workshops, merchandise, you name it!

Facebook (info page AND recovery group), Instagram, X, TikTok, LinkedIn, Pinterest, YouTube.

I figure once I get that webinar series up I can die peacefully? Maybe retire. But knowing me, I’ll just cook up something else!

The Top 3 Questions I get Asked About Emetophobia

#1. Is there a cure?

I hate to sound like a politician here by not exactly answering the question, but the thing is, we don’t use the word “cure” in mental health. That’s because mental health conditions and disorders aren’t diseases. Diseases have cures. Conditions and disorders have successful treatment. Now sometimes people misinterpret this and think that I’m saying you can never really get rid of emetophobia, you can only learn to live with it or cope with it. NOT TRUE! I have been successfully treated for emetophobia and although I work in emetophobia treatment exclusively, I honestly never think about being afraid of vomiting outside of work. And by that, I mean I don’t think about nausea, sickness, viruses, contamination, how others feel, what I eat, etc. etc. I don’t have a diagnosable phobia anymore. But I’m savvy enough to know that if the stress went up in my life (right now I don’t even have any stress – lol) that it might rear its ugly head again. But nothing like before. We call this “neuroplasticity of the brain” which is a fancy way of saying we can create pathways for information in our brains (with a lot of work and time). What we can’t do is erase the pathways that are already there. Not without serious consequences like erasing all your short-term memory. So there isn’t a cure but there’s a cure.

#2. Nobody likes vomiting but you only do it once every 10 years so how does emetophobia ruin someone’s life?

As you may have guessed, this is the #1 question that people WITHOUT emetophobia ask me. And the answer is that being afraid you MIGHT vomit at any moment, for any reason or no reason is what emetophobia actually is. Many people with emetophobia think they’re sick all day every day. Their anxiety makes them nauseous, and their nausea makes them anxious.

2b, if you will, is that people with emetophobia KNOW that vomiting isn’t dangerous, and it won’t kill them. So you can save your logic and reason for your political science class. Logic and reason resides in a part of the brain unaffected by emetophobia (or any phobia). The part that is affected is called the amygdala and it is responsible for your survival. So it’s literally telling the person with emetophobia that they’re about to die. It also fires signals at a rate of 5,000 per second, where as your logic and reason part of the brain requires at least 1 second to register the logic. So it’s literally 5,000 times too slow. Emetophobia treatment involves slowly getting the amygdala used to feeling the anxiety at low levels so it stops sending signals eventually. The person may be a little anxious but if they hang in there and don’t fall back into avoiding situations or using safety behaviors like medicine or gingerale, then soon enough the anxiety will stop bothering to show up.

#3. What causes emetophobia? Trauma? A bad incident with vomiting? What if I can’t remember anything like that?

Good question. Yes, trauma or a bad incident can lead to emetophobia, but it doesn’t necessarily have to have happened. People with emetophobia may have had happy childhoods with good parents. The truth is we don’t know much about the cause, other than it appears to be about 50% nature and 50% nurture. So people with emetophobia probably have a family history of anxiety or depression. They seem to be born with a predisposition to be anxious. There are anxious babies and non-anxious babies! The other 50% is probably a “perfect storm” of things that contributed to it. Once a kid latches on to being afraid of vomiting it doesn’t go away on its own because they won’t vomit often enough. If they latched on to being afraid of dogs, for example, there are enough dogs around all the time for kids to get used to them. But not so with vomiting.

The GOOD NEWS is that you don’t need to spend time and money trying to figure out the cause of your emetophobia. Because no matter what contributed to it, the treatment is the same. The gold standard or evidence-based treatment is CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) with exposure and response prevention. Gradual. And no, that doesn’t mean you have to vomit to get over it – in fact, we already know that doesn’t help.

For more information about emetophobia go to https://www.emetophobiahelp.org